Not completely new but nervous

Good evening all.

Although i am not new to the whole fetish (whatever you want to call it) of bondage, I am still fairly nervous.

I have liked the whole concept since my mid teens (im 21 now) where i used to see females tied up in films, it kinda of freaked me out at first that I was aroused by the whole concept, but I became used to the idea and accepted that it was for me.

I found bondage bobs website about 6 months ago, as I was looking for a site which was british based, i guess so that I kind of didnt feel alone.

To be honest, I dont know of anyone else who is into it, I havent bought it up as a topic of conversation or anything, for fear of getting mocked etc. My girlfriend doesnt like it, but then she doesnt really treat me like her boyfriend, more her means to and end for paying bills :/.

I live in the cambridgeshire area, and I was wondering, if there was anyone else (females) who share this interest but find it as hard as me to talk about it. Also anyone who just wants to chat etc.

Feel free to flame me for asking, but i didnt know how to word it any better than that!

Or any links to anywhere could help :)

Hi Martin, not female I am afraid but know what you mean. I went through similar things feeling it was wrong somehow and trying to understand why I was into it and you know what conclusion I came to...it doesn't matter. I accepted that I am a kinky bugger and that's it nothing wrong with that!

Telling other people is hard, probably the hardest thing, most of my closest friends know but only those I believed could handle it and I always tested the water with telling conversations. Trust me, you are not alone there is a whole community out there with a wide spectrum of "interests".

Check out <a href="http://www.londonfetishscene.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">http://www.londonfetishscene.com/</a>

Cheers

Bob

Hi Martin

Just like to echo what Bob said. I used to think I was the only one sitting there trying to conceal the erection in my pants as the film heroine struggled in ropes and gag. Then I discovered a bondage magazine in a shop, and realised I was not alone.

The web means that like minded people can share interests and experiences. I met someone - now my wife - who isn't into bondage as much as I am, but at least understands and indulges me.

Now I am a bondage photographer with my own web site - largely thanks to Bob - something I would never have believed a few years ago. The bondage community can be a very supportive and enjoyable one to be a part of. So don't be ashamed. Just have fun.

Bhowani

PS A Happy New Year to all of Bob's members

It does give you a good feeling doesnt it when you realise you are not alone doesnt it.

I have to say that this website is absolutely incredible, a fantastic place where you can view what sometimes for some is only a fantasy.

Cheers for the link guys, I shall have a looksie and post in the hope that I can find a female who is as much into it as me.

If you have anymore links keep them coming :).

Keep up the good work.

Mart

Hi Martin

Greeting from the USA! You are not alone, rest assured. There are millions of men & women, straight & gay, whetever, that share your interest.
And there is no shame what so ever in your love of bondage. It is normal part of life; I don't care what anyone says.
And any one that condemns your preferences is probably afraid of thier own surpressed desires.

Many thanks for the kind words

I tried the londonfetish scene, and received a warm welcome from most of the people on there, but got told i might be in the wrong place by others.

Perhaps im looking too much into it, and hoping that a lass is going to come round the corner at some point and be interested in getting involved with me.

I am pretty sick of m girlfriend at the moment to be perfectly honest, not only does she completely deprive me of anything romantically, she also talks to me like her personal slave, and flys off the handle for no apparant reason.

Even my parents have commented on the fact that it doesnt appear that we have a relationship, which is kind of the words of doom.

I think in all honesty, she cant handle the age gap. Im 21 and she is 34. Im not bothered about the age gap at all, I dont mind getting all kinky with someone who is my age, or someone who is older, because experience is definately a good thing.

PS. The lass in the bhowani test gallery back in July, Sabrina is her name. I would have to say she is one of the most beautiful people I have ever seen. Jessie as well is just as good looking.

Shame they are all probably taken! LOL.

Martin,

You have youth on your side mate! Give her the elbow and you will be much happier I can assure you. She sounds like a nutter and not in a good way! I know it's hard, but when you get another bird, drop your kink into the conversation fairly early on and that way you won't waste your time with someone who isn't into it.

cheers
TC